If you want a thriving life and business. You need thriving relationships. There are no exemptions to this rule. No matter how brilliant and strong you are, if you want to thrive you need relationship.
And if you want relationships you need to be generous. Not foolish, but generous. Generosity is not about giving what we can't afford to give. However, it does require sacrifice. These thoughts don't need to be and are not, mutually exclusive.
This means choosing who we have relationship with and how we define that relationship is vital. If you are an adult, your parents don't choose for you, and they don't just happen to you. You get to choose. 'I just found myself in a relationship with..' is not a sentence that should be in your vocabulary as an adult.
Know what you are looking for in your relationships. The qualities, the character, their approach to life, know your non negotiables (Rarely should politics be on this list despite what social media would have you believe) and then seek them out.
Then make sure you define that relationship. Understanding that definition protects you, your current most important relationships and the other person. We have different types and levels of relationships. That is natural. Defining this allows us to be generous in a safe environment. Safe, because we don't give permission or authority to people who shouldn't have it.
Once you have gone through the process of searching and defining, be generous, be loving and continue to build.
Simple tips:
- Remember things that are important to them.
- Write a card, send a letter, do something thoughtful for no reason other than to care.
- Give more than you get.
- Caring about them means you need to care about things that matter to them.
- Have fun, laugh, play. Do this without gossip.
- Don't bond over gossip. Gossip is not a reliable glue for lasting relationships.
Go build relationships. All the different types. People are awesome, the return on investment is worth it!
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